ABOUT
Tammy
I’m Tammy S. Drost—author, advocate, and entrepreneur. My journey has been shaped by resilience, hard truths, and the belief that no one should have to suffer in silence.
My Mother Was an Asshole is the story I once needed to read—part memoir, part survival guide—created to help others name covert narcissistic abuse, break free from its grip, and find the courage to heal.
The Hidden Truth of Covert Abuse
For decades, I lived with the subtle but devastating effects of covert narcissistic abuse. On the outside, everything seemed fine. Behind closed doors, manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control chipped away at my confidence and sense of self.
When I finally recognized the patterns, I realized I wasn’t alone—and neither are you. My mission is to shine a light on this hidden form of abuse so survivors can understand what’s happening, break the cycle, and reclaim their lives.
From Silent Survivor
to Fierce Advocate
Speaking out about covert narcissistic abuse isn’t easy. It means breaking family silence, challenging ingrained beliefs, and facing backlash. But it also means freedom—and I’ve learned that telling our truth not only sets us free, it opens the door for others.
Through my book, workshops, and speaking engagements, I help people move from surviving to thriving, with practical tools and heartfelt encouragement.
Why I Wrote My Mother Was an Asshole
When I began writing My Mother Was an Asshole, I made myself one promise: I wouldn’t sugarcoat the truth. Survivors deserve honesty, validation, and practical guidance—not vague platitudes.
This book is the culmination of years of reflection, research, and personal growth—designed to help others name the abuse, understand its impact, and begin the healing process.
Beyond the Book:
The Business360 Method®
In addition to writing and advocacy, I’m the founder of The Business360 Method®, where I coach and mentor entrepreneurs—especially women—to build businesses with clarity, strategy, and confidence.
My work with Business360 is deeply connected to my own healing: reclaiming your power in business and life often starts with reclaiming your voice.
Living with Purpose, Leading with Truth
Whether I’m speaking to a room full of entrepreneurs, guiding a survivor through their next steps, or writing my next chapter, my mission is the same: to help people rise above their circumstances and create lives they truly love.
If my story resonates with you, know this—you are not broken, and you are not alone.
My Mother Was an Asshole
The book that breaks the silence
Reveals the hidden tactics of covert narcissistic abuse and how to spot them
Shares the long-term impact of abuse on children—even into adulthood
Explains the family roles—Golden Child, Scapegoat, Lost Child, Mascot, Flying Monkey—and how they trap you in the cycle
Offers practical strategies to break free and heal without guilt or shame
This is not just my story. It’s a roadmap for every survivor ready to reclaim their voice and their life.
WHAT PEOPLE
ARE SAYING
“Raw, plainspoken, and piercingly honest, Tammy S. Drost’s memoir is both deeply personal and universally relevant. My Mother Was an Asshole belongs on the shelf of every survivor ready to break free.”
— Literary Titan Review
“Every page felt like she had been in my house, watching my childhood unfold. This book is a mirror for those who have lived through it—and a map for those ready to heal.”
— Early Reader Review
“As a Special Education Teacher with nearly three decades of experience, I’ve seen firsthand how covert narcissistic abuse hides beneath the surface of so many students’ struggles. Tammy’s honesty and insight make this book a lifeline for survivors and those who support them.”
— Educator, Connecticut Public Schools
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