MEET
Tammy
I’m Tammy S. Drost—award-winning strategist, author, advocate, and entrepreneur. My journey has been shaped by resilience, hard truths, and the belief that no one should ever have to suffer in silence.
My Mother Was an Asshole is the story I once needed to read—part memoir, part survival guide—written to help others name covert narcissistic abuse, break free from its grip, and find the courage to heal.
The Hidden Truth of Covert Abuse
For decades, I lived with the subtle but devastating effects of covert narcissistic abuse. On the outside, everything looked fine. Behind closed doors, manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control chipped away at my confidence and sense of self.
If this feels familiar, know this: you’re not imagining it.
When I finally recognized the patterns, I realized I wasn’t alone—and neither are you. My mission is to shine a light on this hidden form of abuse so survivors can understand what’s happening, break the cycle, and reclaim their lives.
Why I Wrote My Mother Was an Asshole
When I began writing My Mother Was an Asshole, I made myself one promise: I wouldn’t sugarcoat the truth. Survivors deserve honesty, validation, and the tools to heal—not vague platitudes.
This book is the culmination of years of reflection, research, and personal growth—designed to help others name the abuse, understand its impact, and begin the healing process.
Beyond the Book: The Business360 Method®
In addition to writing and advocacy, I’m the founder of The Business360 Method®, where I coach and mentor entrepreneurs—especially women—to build businesses with clarity, confidence, and resilience.
My work with Business360 was born out of my own healing: reclaiming your power in business and in life starts with reclaiming your voice.
Living with Purpose, Leading with Truth
Whether guiding entrepreneurs, supporting survivors, or writing my next chapter, my mission is the same: to help people rise above their circumstances and create lives they truly love.
If my story resonates with you, know this—you are not broken, and you are not alone.
My Mother Was an Asshole
The book that breaks the silence
Reveals the hidden tactics of covert narcissistic abuse and how to spot them
Shares the long-term impact of abuse—even into adulthood
Explains toxic family roles—(Golden Child, Scapegoat, Lost Child, Mascot, Flying Monkey, etc.)—and how they trap you in the cycle
Offers practical strategies to break free and heal without guilt or shame
This is not just my story. It’s a roadmap for every survivor ready to reclaim their voice and their life.
WHAT PEOPLE
ARE SAYING
“Raw, plainspoken, and piercingly honest, Tammy S. Drost’s memoir is both deeply personal and universally relevant. My Mother Was an Asshole belongs on the shelf of every survivor ready to break free.”
— Thomas Anderson, Editor in Chief
Literary Titan
“Every page felt like she had been in my house, watching my childhood unfold. This book is a mirror for those who have lived through it—and a map for those ready to heal.”
— Rachel C., Daughter
Survivor of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
“As a Special Education Teacher with nearly three decades of experience, I’ve seen firsthand how covert narcissistic abuse hides beneath the surface of so many students’ struggles. Tammy’s honesty and insight make this book a lifeline for survivors and those who support them.”
— Terri B., A Grateful Special Education Teacher
Connecticut Public Schools
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