YOU'RE NOT IMAGINING IT. YOU'RE NOT OVERREACTING.
AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
You're not imagining it.
You're not overreacting.
And you are not alone.
The most dangerous abuse is the kind no one else sees. My Mother Was an Asshole is your truth, your validation, and your path to freedom.
“This book gave me the words for experiences I could never explain—and the courage to heal.”
— Maya G., Survivor of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
From Silence to Strength
Tammy S. Drost is an award-winning business and brand strategist, sought-after speaker, and advocate for survivors of covert narcissistic abuse.
For years, she lived through the quiet, calculated reality of emotional abuse hidden behind appearances no one questioned. Like many survivors, she struggled to explain what was happening—until truth-telling became the beginning of healing.
Today, Tammy uses both her voice and professional expertise to help others recognize harmful patterns, reclaim their self-worth, and rebuild their lives with clarity and confidence.
Her award-winning memoir, My Mother Was an Asshole, received the Literary Titan Gold Book Award for its raw honesty, emotional depth, and powerful message of healing.
Through her writing, speaking, and advocacy, Tammy reminds survivors of one essential truth:
You are not imagining it.
You are not overreacting.
And you are not alone.
The Abuse You Couldn’t Name—Until Now
Most people think abuse is loud, obvious, and physical. But covert narcissistic abuse is quiet, manipulative, and often invisible to everyone else.
In My Mother Was an Asshole, Literary Titan Gold Book Award-winning author Tammy S. Drost combines raw memoir with practical insight—helping survivors finally recognize the abuse, understand the patterns, and begin healing.
Inside, you’ll discover:
How covert abuse shapes children well into adulthood
The toxic family roles: Golden Child, Scapegoat, Lost Child, and Flying Monkey
How to break destructive generational cycles
Practical steps to rebuild confidence, boundaries, and self-worth
This is your awakening. It starts now.
Take Your Healing Deeper
The Companion Workbook to My Mother Was an Asshole
Awareness is the first step to healing—but true transformation takes practice.
The My Mother Was an Asshole Companion Workbook was created to help you turn insight into action. Each section mirrors the chapters of the award-winning memoir, guiding you through reflection, journaling, and growth at your own pace.
Inside, you’ll find:
Powerful prompts to help you process your emotions and experiences
Reflection exercises to recognize patterns of covert abuse
Grounding tools to rebuild self-worth, confidence, and peace
Whether you’re reading the book for the first time or returning to go deeper, this workbook becomes your safe space to process, reflect, and heal—one page at a time.
Recognized. Recommended. Trusted.
Tammy S. Drost’s work has resonated with survivors, educators, therapists, and readers nationwide for its honesty, emotional depth, and transformative impact.
Her award-winning memoir, My Mother Was an Asshole, received the Literary Titan Gold Book Award for its courageous storytelling, raw truth, and powerful message of healing after covert narcissistic abuse.
As both a survivor and advocate, Tammy brings a rare combination of lived experience, emotional insight, and professional expertise—helping others recognize harmful patterns, reclaim their voice, and rebuild their lives with clarity and confidence.
Literary Titan Gold Book Award Honoree
Speaker & Advocate for Survivors
Trusted by Readers, Educators & Healing Communities
Author of My Mother Was an Asshole
Through her writing and speaking, Tammy reminds survivors of one essential truth:
Healing begins the moment you stop questioning your reality and start trusting yourself again.
BREAK THE SILENCE.
END THE SILENCE.
Every cycle of abuse begins in silence. Every cycle ends when someone chooses to speak.
Recognize the Pattern
Covert narcissists hide behind kindness, charm, and public respectability—yet their calculated tactics leave deep, invisible scars. My Mother Was an Asshole unmasks their playbook so you can finally see the truth.
Reclaim Your Power
Healing begins the moment you refuse to play the roles they’ve assigned you. Discover how to break free from manipulation, rebuild your boundaries, and reclaim ownership of your life.
You're Not Alone
Every chapter is written for survivors—offering validation, clarity, and the unwavering reassurance that you are believed, understood, and never alone.
WHAT PEOPLE
ARE SAYING
“Raw, plainspoken, and piercingly honest, Tammy S. Drost’s memoir is both deeply personal and universally relevant. My Mother Was an Asshole belongs on the shelf of every survivor ready to break free.”
— Thomas Anderson, Editor in Chief
Literary Titan
“The workbook helped me process emotions I didn’t even realize I was still carrying. It turned awareness into actual healing.”
— Jenna R., Survivor & Reader
“Every page felt like she had been in my house, watching my childhood unfold. This book is a mirror for those who have lived through it—and a map for those ready to heal.”
— Rachel C., Daughter
Survivor of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
“As a Special Education Teacher with nearly three decades of experience, I’ve seen firsthand how covert narcissistic abuse hides beneath the surface of so many students’ struggles. Tammy’s honesty and insight make this book a lifeline for survivors and those who support them.”
— Terri B., A Grateful Special Education Teacher
Connecticut Public Schools
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